My suggestion is simple: Make certain units that, when they die in battle, reappear in the possession of the side that won.
For example: Country A has a fort in City A. Country B attacks City A and overwhelms the defenses. Rather than the fort being killed, it instead reappears in the possesion of Country B. Likewise, if Country A won, the fort would return to their possesion (maybe youcould make capturable units fight last to prevent bloodless victories for the defenders).
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